There’s no easy way to tell you this
The real secret to self control may not be what you want to hear
But
It’s what you need to hear
No 1 person naturally has better self control than another
That’s a LIE we tell ourselves to feel better about our actions
Many people would ‘think’ that I’ve got great self control
However....
... I don’t really have better self control
I just design my environment so that I don’t have to use it
If I was in the pub every weekend?
I’d drink
If I kept foxes cookies or kit Kat chunkies in the House ?
I’d fucking eat them
If my food wasn’t planned or prepped?
I’d be in macdonalds or the chipper
Whether you like it or not self control is a choice
But most people CHOOSE to tell themselves a lie about it
Every single person enjoys the fuck out of high calorie, high sugar, high fat foods
Every single person LOVES getting pissed sometimes
And every single person will struggle with self control when put in tempting situations with these types of things
The difference between someone with the best self control is that they need to use it the least
They just don’t put themselves in situations that require it as much
What do you expect is going to happen if you’re constantly putting yourself in situations that require willpower and self control?????
It’s easier to AVOID temptation than to RESIST it
People with more self control only have more self control because they don’t put themselves into positions where they need to rely on fucking self control all the bloody time
Disciplined people are better at setting up their environment and lives so that it doesn’t require heroic willpower or self control
When it comes to self control we often tell ourselves we lack it
Or that others are just born with more
That’s BOLLOCKS
and the only person you’re hurting by believing that crap is yourself
It’s not easier for someone else or harder for you
We’re all hardwired the exact same
The uncomfortable truth is that some people just manage it better
Self control comes down to:
CONTROLLING WHAT YOU CAN CONTROL
Stop making excuses for yourself or playing the victim
This is your body and your health
You don’t lack self control
Your just avoiding taking responsibility for it
It’s an easy way to let yourself off the hook saying ‘I just don’t have any willpower’
The reality is that you’re just not taking control of the elements you can to get more self control
And not setting yourself up to succeed
We buy things to have in the house in case someone comes round, then we eat it
Guess what?
You’re really buying it for yourself than. Stop fuckibg buying it
If you have a friend that every time you hang out together you go on a two day bender...
stop meeting up with them every fucking weekend
If everyday you end up buying a chicken fillet roll, crisps, and a coke at lunch, bring your own bloody lunch or at least decide in advance what you’ll buy in the shop so that you’re not relying on pure willpower
Self control is about the choices you make
To get better at self control...
... make choices that make it easier to have it
Make choices in advance that mean you require it less
SIMPLE
Use your common sense
Stop putting yourself in situations where your self control is going to be constantly bloody tested
It’s a skill, a habit, an environment thing, it takes practise
It’s about actually practising using it
Most people just cave and say I’ll do better next time
But all you’re doing is teaching yourself to give in and bullshit yourself
The ONLY way to get better at something is to actually FUCKING DO IT
self control is no different
It starts with engineering your environment to be conducive to your goals
Planning
Deciding in advance
Removing temptations
Creating an environment that matches your goals
Actually having goals you’re working towards
If your environment conflicts you’ll always struggle with self control
The next part of mastering self control is this:
It requires you to ACT on it
Like most things
it’s the small choices and decisions that add up and self control is a prime example of this
If the not the ultimate example
You get better at it by using it on the small decisions daily that require self control
Make your environment match your goals
Control what you can control so that you’ve to use it as little as possible
Practise using it on small choices frequently
And Remember it’s a CHOICE
You can CHOOSE to work on it
OR
You can CHOOSE not to
It’s up to you
Anyway
If you want a hand getting better at self control?
It just so happens that’s something I’m brilliant at doing
Just hit reply and let me know where you struggle the most with self control
Leigh
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